Comments for Playing Mom: Playing the role of a lifetime - without a script. http://www.playingmom.com Stay at home Mom, Long Island blogger, work at home Mom, first time parents, top Mommy blogs, Postpartum Depression, toddler, preschooler, big kid, honest look at Motherhood Tue, 15 May 2012 01:25:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Three’s Company? by Susan http://www.playingmom.com/2012/04/30/threes-company/#comment-31817 Susan Tue, 15 May 2012 01:25:44 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=2994#comment-31817 Go for it! We need three grandchildren I think the only way to know if you made the right decision is to do it. Go for it! We need three grandchildren I think the only way to know if you made the right decision is to do it.

]]> Comment on Are You Mom Enough? by Dani http://www.playingmom.com/2012/05/11/are-you-mom-enough/#comment-31366 Dani Fri, 11 May 2012 18:54:22 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=3039#comment-31366 Standing on a chair, looking at the camera! Well said. Standing on a chair, looking at the camera! Well said.

]]> Comment on Are You Mom Enough? by Z http://www.playingmom.com/2012/05/11/are-you-mom-enough/#comment-31364 Z Fri, 11 May 2012 18:33:42 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=3039#comment-31364 The choice of putting a 26 year old mother and a little boy wearing school boy clothing does not depict the average AP duo. To me, it looks like TIME was having a few bad months of circulation numbers and lacking quality advertisers and probably overall doing poorly due to less print and more online readers.. This is all I see from this cover, a cry for attention. I was not even interested in opening the magazine to read the article. The choice of putting a 26 year old mother and a little boy wearing school boy clothing does not depict the average AP duo. To me, it looks like TIME was having a few bad months of circulation numbers and lacking quality advertisers and probably overall doing poorly due to less print and more online readers.. This is all I see from this cover, a cry for attention. I was not even interested in opening the magazine to read the article.

]]> Comment on Are You Mom Enough? by Elissa http://www.playingmom.com/2012/05/11/are-you-mom-enough/#comment-31358 Elissa Fri, 11 May 2012 18:09:00 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=3039#comment-31358 Very well said Dani. Thank you. Very well said Dani. Thank you.

]]> Comment on Three’s Company? by Dani http://www.playingmom.com/2012/04/30/threes-company/#comment-30210 Dani Thu, 03 May 2012 01:19:03 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=2994#comment-30210 Loved this so much, Jessica. My insides were smiling as I read it almost to the point of cheering. I am relieved for you and actually for me knowing that once your decision was made, you no longer feared the cons. I do feel the nudge and like I mentioned I think that gives me the answer but I just can't imagine it in those moments when I feel in over my head just with the two I have, my work and sleep schedule and trying to remember to keep the house stocked with toilet paper and food. I love how you described the fullness and the learning opportunities that you see for your entire family. Love it and thank you! Loved this so much, Jessica. My insides were smiling as I read it almost to the point of cheering. I am relieved for you and actually for me knowing that once your decision was made, you no longer feared the cons. I do feel the nudge and like I mentioned I think that gives me the answer but I just can’t imagine it in those moments when I feel in over my head just with the two I have, my work and sleep schedule and trying to remember to keep the house stocked with toilet paper and food. I love how you described the fullness and the learning opportunities that you see for your entire family. Love it and thank you!

]]> Comment on Three’s Company? by Jessica http://www.playingmom.com/2012/04/30/threes-company/#comment-30206 Jessica Thu, 03 May 2012 00:31:30 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=2994#comment-30206 I made the decision to have a third based on the fact that I couldn't decide. I'm 4 months pregnant right now. After having my second I got rid of ALL of my baby stuff...clothes, sitting apparatus', car seats. When he turned two I began to feel the nudge. I never intended on three but I couldn't kick the urge for more. I just didn't feel done. About 6 months ago I created an almost identical pro/con list. There seemed to be many reasons to just stop and enjoy the wonders of our current situation but the nudge wouldn't quit. We jumped off the fence and here we are. I was most afraid of being in over my head...my inability to stay sane with no help. Now, in my second trimester, and reading through your list I feel very little fear. Your cons do not really effect me the way I thought they may when I sat down to read your honest and open post. There is a sense of wonderful relief now that the decision is made that makes those cons powerless. Don't get me wrong, I have my moments of hyperventilating...but they pass. Another child just makes more...of everything. The "mores" I like to focus on are amazing ways my kids will benefit: more people looking out for them, more chances to learn patience, empathy, and character building in general, more direct exposure to different types of personalities which brings more opportunities to practice sharing, helping, and forgiveness, and most importantly, more love. Of course there will be times that I will feel I made a mistake...I felt that way many times with my second over the past 2 1/2 years...but there have been MANY more times that I embrace the fullness and the chaos. Time flies and in the blink of an eye I will be watching all of them create their own lives. The list of cons for me was basically fear, and a good friend once advised me to never make decisions based on fear. After reading a ton of blogs about this exact topic, I realized quickly that this is not a topic you can be advised on. Reasons people have three, whether it be based on family history or not will never coincide with your situation exactly. In no way am I looking forward to the crying, the sleepless nights, the pumping, the distraction from the other kids....but the nudge was certainly there for a reason and it makes me realize that this is not really about me. My time will come again...to pursue my career, to feel sexy, to exercise my butt off. But for now, I'm building another human that will look like the rest of my beautiful family...and who will spark something new from deep inside me...just waiting to be discovered. I made the decision to have a third based on the fact that I couldn’t decide. I’m 4 months pregnant right now. After having my second I got rid of ALL of my baby stuff…clothes, sitting apparatus’, car seats. When he turned two I began to feel the nudge. I never intended on three but I couldn’t kick the urge for more. I just didn’t feel done. About 6 months ago I created an almost identical pro/con list. There seemed to be many reasons to just stop and enjoy the wonders of our current situation but the nudge wouldn’t quit. We jumped off the fence and here we are. I was most afraid of being in over my head…my inability to stay sane with no help. Now, in my second trimester, and reading through your list I feel very little fear. Your cons do not really effect me the way I thought they may when I sat down to read your honest and open post. There is a sense of wonderful relief now that the decision is made that makes those cons powerless. Don’t get me wrong, I have my moments of hyperventilating…but they pass. Another child just makes more…of everything. The “mores” I like to focus on are amazing ways my kids will benefit: more people looking out for them, more chances to learn patience, empathy, and character building in general, more direct exposure to different types of personalities which brings more opportunities to practice sharing, helping, and forgiveness, and most importantly, more love.
Of course there will be times that I will feel I made a mistake…I felt that way many times with my second over the past 2 1/2 years…but there have been MANY more times that I embrace the fullness and the chaos. Time flies and in the blink of an eye I will be watching all of them create their own lives. The list of cons for me was basically fear, and a good friend once advised me to never make decisions based on fear. After reading a ton of blogs about this exact topic, I realized quickly that this is not a topic you can be advised on. Reasons people have three, whether it be based on family history or not will never coincide with your situation exactly. In no way am I looking forward to the crying, the sleepless nights, the pumping, the distraction from the other kids….but the nudge was certainly there for a reason and it makes me realize that this is not really about me. My time will come again…to pursue my career, to feel sexy, to exercise my butt off. But for now, I’m building another human that will look like the rest of my beautiful family…and who will spark something new from deep inside me…just waiting to be discovered.

]]> Comment on Three’s Company? by Sondra http://www.playingmom.com/2012/04/30/threes-company/#comment-29932 Sondra Mon, 30 Apr 2012 20:11:37 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=2994#comment-29932 Dani - thanks for posting. I am going through the same exact decision process now, and can relate to EVERYTHING you are saying. It doesn't seem logical to add another child into our crazy busy lives with two demanding careers and two healthy, amazing kids (one of each), and very ambitious hopes and dreams for all of us . . .but . . . my heart just wants it . . . most days . . . I think . If I make the decision, I'll have to then convince my husband :). I appreciate the opinions and perspectives! Dani – thanks for posting. I am going through the same exact decision process now, and can relate to EVERYTHING you are saying. It doesn’t seem logical to add another child into our crazy busy lives with two demanding careers and two healthy, amazing kids (one of each), and very ambitious hopes and dreams for all of us . . .but . . . my heart just wants it . . . most days . . . I think .

If I make the decision, I’ll have to then convince my husband :) . I appreciate the opinions and perspectives!

]]> Comment on Three’s Company? by Z http://www.playingmom.com/2012/04/30/threes-company/#comment-29924 Z Mon, 30 Apr 2012 19:27:34 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=2994#comment-29924 honestly, i dont know of anyone who ever thought that their parents choose to have more children because they weren't enough! no kid is going to think that, they are just going to think that your family isn't complete yet..and it will all make sense once it is :) honestly, i dont know of anyone who ever thought that their parents choose to have more children because they weren’t enough! no kid is going to think that, they are just going to think that your family isn’t complete yet..and it will all make sense once it is :)

]]> Comment on Three’s Company? by z http://www.playingmom.com/2012/04/30/threes-company/#comment-29923 z Mon, 30 Apr 2012 19:25:56 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=2994#comment-29923 honestly if i didnt have to go through 9 months of pregnancy, i'd do it again. Also, i never knew anyone who thought they weren't enough and thats why their parents choose to have more!! honestly if i didnt have to go through 9 months of pregnancy, i’d do it again. Also, i never knew anyone who thought they weren’t enough and thats why their parents choose to have more!!

]]> Comment on Three’s Company? by Dani http://www.playingmom.com/2012/04/30/threes-company/#comment-29918 Dani Mon, 30 Apr 2012 18:58:21 +0000 http://www.playingmom.com/?p=2994#comment-29918 Sigh. I just don't want them to ever think they weren't enough. It actually the opposite - they are so much fun that I want more of it! Being done would be so awesome. Can't even imagine pregnancy. Regret would suck. Also don't want to look back and be like "WTF did I do?" Double sigh. Sigh. I just don’t want them to ever think they weren’t enough. It actually the opposite – they are so much fun that I want more of it! Being done would be so awesome. Can’t even imagine pregnancy. Regret would suck. Also don’t want to look back and be like “WTF did I do?” Double sigh.

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